“Real transformation requires real honesty. If you want to move forward — get real with yourself.” — Bryant McGill
When I worked in a gym, we offered a complimentary fitness assessment to every new member.
It was an opportunity for them to get some guidance on their health goals, as well as for us to sell them on personal training (duh).
As part of the assessment we would usually have a conversation about nutrition (as the majority of people would state that they wanted to lose weight).
I would prompt the discussion with something along the lines of "Describe a typical day of eating."
To which, almost without fail, I would get a response along the lines of,
"Oh, I eat pretty healthy.
Breakfast is usually oatmeal or some yogurt.
For lunch it's a salad or soup.
And then for dinner I'll do something like salmon or chicken with vegetables."
"What about snacks or alcohol?"
"I'm not much of a snacker. And I only have a glass or two of wine on the weekends."
Isn't it a crazy coincidence that of the hundreds of assessments I did during my 12 years working in the gym, more than half of those people were following the exact same diet???
Oh...and somehow...they were all mysteriously gaining weight too...
I know! It's hard to believe right???
Something just wasn't adding up...
"I'm doing everything right." They'd say.
"So, I don't understand why I'm not losing weight."
In my early days as coach I would be just as confused as the client.
Maybe it's your hormones!
Maybe it's your "broken metabolism"!
Maybe it's gluten!
I would offer up a host of possible culprits, but almost never the most obvious one.
My older, wiser self knows better.
As Occam's Razor states, "the simplest explanation is usually the right one.”
And the simplest explanation for why you aren't losing weight is:
👉 You aren't being honest about something.
Now, I'm not trying to point fingers (even though I just used the finger pointing emoji...) or to call you a liar.
Because the thing is that sometimes we don't even realize we aren't being honest.
Sometimes the issue isn't intentional deceit, but a lack of self-awareness.
And sometimes the most convincing lies are the ones we tell ourselves.
What I am doing is asking you to start paying attention, to look inward rather than outward and to ask yourself the tough questions.
Are you really doing "everything right"?
Do you really not understand why you are gaining/not losing weight?
What truths are you avoiding?
And what problems are you ignoring?
📢 Stop pretending that you don't know the answers.
If you aren't getting the results you want, chances are you know why.
The problem is that we want to believe the lies we tell ourselves.
Because believing that you've "tried everything" and "nothing works" is a lot easier than admitting to yourself that you know what you need to do...and that what you need to do is uncomfortable, scary, and/or possibly painful.
➡ It's dealing with your lack of boundaries.
➡ It's getting real about your level of fulfillment and happiness.
➡ It's being unapologetic about what you actually want.
➡ It's examining your negative self-talk and self-sabotaging behavior.
None of that is easy.
But none of it will magically go away by pretending like it isn't there.
What truths are you avoiding right now?
And what help do you need in order to face them?
P.S.
I am on a mission to empower women to take control of their health and their lives by practicing radical self-love, acceptance and honesty. If this sounds like something you want to be a part of, stay tuned for a special announcement coming at the end of this week.
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